The Power of Pivoting as a New Mother

Hey, Bleu Bells 💙,

Let me tell you something about this motherhood journey: it’s not for the weak. I mean, I knew it would be hard, but whew, no one prepared me for the reality of being a new mom and navigating life’s curveballs at the same time. So here I am, diving into uncharted waters, and let me just say—pivoting has become my superpower.

When you’re a mom, especially a new mom,

you quickly learn that things will go wrong. Plans will fall apart. The sitter you thought you could count on may change their mind about pricing. And here I am, in Houston, far from the familiar comforts of my family running into a roadblock with Sariah’s childcare.

This hit me hard, y’all. HARD.

Why? Because, like so many moms, I thrive on consistency and having a plan. I want Sariah to be cared for, loved, and in a stable environment while I try to juggle it all—work, being a content creator, and simply staying afloat.

But life doesn’t care about your plans.

Life will throw you a curveball, smile, and watch you struggle to figure it out.

And you know what? That’s okay. Because here’s what I’ve learned: pivoting is powerful.

The Motherhood Pivot

When that childcare plan fell through, my immediate reaction was fear. What do I do now? How will I manage? Am I failing her?

It’s that mom guilt creeping in

—she deserves stability, and it’s my job to provide it. But as I’ve reflected on this moment, I’ve realized something beautiful about motherhood: you don’t have to have all the answers. You need to be willing to pivot.

Pivoting means finding a backup plan, even when it wasn’t part of the original vision. It means leaning on the community, asking for help (even when it’s uncomfortable), and

finding a solution that works, even if it’s temporary.

It means adjusting your expectations and focusing on what matters: Sariah’s happiness, safety, and well-being.

My Struggles with Depending on Others

If I’m being honest, part of my struggle is my hesitation to depend on people. I’ve always valued independence and hate feeling like I’m inconveniencing others. But motherhood has humbled me in the best (and hardest) ways.

When you’re a mom, you quickly realize you can’t do it alone.

And honestly? It would be best if you didn’t have to. It’s okay to ask for help, to reach out to family and friends, or even to explore new communities and resources to support you.

For me, that means leaning into the network I’m slowly building here in Houston. Whether finding new childcare options, asking friends for recommendations, or simply venting to someone who gets it, I’m learning that vulnerability isn’t a weakness—it’s a strength.

The Takeaway: Embrace the Pivot

Bleu Bells, here’s my advice to all the new moms out there: embrace the pivot. Life will throw you curveballs—sometimes daily—and that’s okay. Give yourself grace.

Allow yourself to feel all the emotions (yes, even the guilt and frustration),

Then, pick yourself up and figure out the next step.

Motherhood is a journey of constant adaptation.

You don’t have to have all the answers. You just need to stay open, flexible, and willing to find solutions that work for you and your baby.

And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, just know you’re not alone. I’m right there with you, learning, growing, and figuring it out one day at a time.

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Let’s Build a Community

This blog is more than just a place for me to share my experiences—it’s a space for us to connect, learn, and support one another. If you’ve had to pivot in motherhood, I’d love to hear your story. Drop a comment below or reach out on socials. Let’s build a village where we can lift each other up.

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Let’s talk about something that all new mothers inevitably face—situations we can’t control. Whether it’s a last-minute change in childcare, unexpected expenses, or just the daily chaos of motherhood, learning to pivot is a skill every mom needs. Trust me, I’ve been there, and it’s not easy. But you CAN move through it with grace, determination, and a little bit of creativity. Here’s my guide to pivoting through life’s motherhood curveballs:

Step 1: Cry That Sht Out (Yes, Really)*

Let’s be real—motherhood is HARD. You’re doing a million things, juggling emotions, and trying to stay sane. If a situation hits you hard, give yourself permission to cry it out. 💧 Don’t bottle it up or act like you have to hold it together all the time. Take 24 hours to feel it, process it, and breathe through it. Allow yourself that space to grieve the moment, the frustration, or the setback.

Step 2: Shift Your Mindset

Once you’ve cried it out, it’s time to shift gears. Ask yourself: How can I be solution-oriented? Instead of spending money impulsively (trust me, I’ve been there), focus on what you can control.

For me, when I hit a roadblock with Sariah’s childcare, I pivoted by opening her 529 College Savings Plan with USAA. 🎓👶 Why? Because I realized this moment was teaching me to think about her long-term education and care. It was a reminder to plan ahead and put systems in place so I don’t feel overwhelmed next time. Find small wins in the chaos and create solutions for the future.

Step 3: Journal It Out

Grab your journal and get to writing. 🖊️ Write down:

• What happened and how you felt about it.

• Goals you want to focus on for your baby.

• Steps you can take to prevent or prepare for a similar situation in the future.

This will help you not only process your emotions but also come up with a roadmap to tackle challenges head-on. Journaling is also a great way to shift your focus to gratitude and clarity. It’s your safe space to be real with yourself.

Step 4: Celebrate the Wins with Your Baby

After the storm passes, take a moment to celebrate the small victories with your little one. Whether it’s singing their favorite song, reading a story together, or simply snuggling up on the couch, these moments remind you of your “why.” Your baby deserves your best, and even on hard days, you’re showing up. That’s worth celebrating! 🎉

Step 5: Build Your Community

Remember, you’re not in this alone. Whether it’s the Bleu Bell community, your friends, or family, lean on your village. Share your wins, your struggles, and your lessons. Sometimes, just hearing “You’ve got this” from another mom makes all the difference.

Why Pivoting Matters

Life as a mom will never be perfect, but pivoting is what makes us stronger. It’s about learning to embrace change, trusting yourself, and creating a better future for your little one. Sariah deserves the best, and so does your baby. When you pivot, you’re not just solving problems—you’re teaching your child resilience, determination, and creativity. 🌟

Your Blueprint for Pivoting

• Cry and process for 24 hours 💧

• Focus on solutions and long-term wins 💡

• Journal your thoughts and goals 📓

• Celebrate small victories with your baby 🎶

• Build your community and lean on them 💙

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Bleu Bells, I hope this guide helps you through those tough moments. You’re doing amazing, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Let me know—how do you pivot through the hard days? Drop your thoughts below! 💙

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