I know I’m late…💙 Bleu Buzz Sunday — What a True Village Looks Like
“Figuring it all out by yourself is overrated.”
—Erin On Demand
That quote landed in my inbox last week, and I felt it in my bones. For months, I’ve tried to be a one‑woman army: full‑time employee, new mom, content creator, debt slayer, and fitness hopeful. You name it, and I’ve sworn I can handle it. The truth? I can’t. Not alone. And that’s where a village steps in.
1. The Myth of the Solo Supermom
We live in a culture that applauds the “I‑got‑this” hustle. Scroll Instagram for two minutes, and you’ll find highlight reels of moms running businesses, teaching toddlers Mandarin, and squeezing in Pilates before dawn. I bought into that myth. I pushed through exhaustion, filmed Storytime Lives while half‑asleep, and cried in my car between work calls—too proud to admit I needed help.
Then, one afternoon, Sariah’s godmother, Tynette Gwen, sat me down and asked, “Why are you trying to carry the world alone?” I had no answer—only tears. She reminded me that motherhood isn’t meant to be a solo sport; it’s a relay race where we pass the baton when our legs give out.
2. Meet My Village
Tynette Guinn (Godmom)
Spiritual anchor & baby whisperer
Sariah’s roll dog for life. She hasn’t left Sariah’s side since the day she was born!!! She changed my life, and now Sariah is changing hers. She walks me through being a better partner to Calvin and always keeps me grounded, even when I have an attitude, lol.
Tiffany Green
Sweet as pie. She has the most warm heart. Her voice is like an angel.
She is Sariah’s positive partner. I can always count on Tiff to say the sweetest thing and believe anything is possible…the most beautiful feeling. Trust me, you need a woman like this in your life.
Tiffani Yates
Chaos management (mom of four!)
She says, “Drop her off—one more kid won’t change my zoo.” lol
She is Sariah’s go-to auntie for all things cute and amazing. I have never met a woman who sacrifices EVERYTHING for her children. She does not hesitate to make it happen for her kids. A mermaid birthday for her baby girl to a dream Christmas celebration. She usually plans at the last minute and always comes out on top.
Kiffany Smith
America’s Sweetheart
I swear Kiffany is the sweetest woman I know. She is ALL things MOM, decorations, and making all parties super cute! I’m telling you. She always has the sweetest things to say, even if she cusses lol.
I called for help, and she immediately said, GIRL, YES! ” Sariah is a sweet baby. I would love to watch her.
Keisha Cokes
This woman is also the sweetest woman I know. She is all things decorative, cute, and mom cuteness and has the softest voice you have ever heard. Her eyes glow at the sight of Sariah. I can always count on her to excite me about everything Sariah does and makes at school. I love it! And now, with every picture Sariah brings home, I get so excited to post it in the house!!!
Asia Duhon
When I tell you I called this woman desperately to find someone to watch Sariah on the weekends, and she immediately said yes, I almost cried. Honestly, I did not know women like this existed. They are a dying breed. She and her daughter are the cutest things alive!!! They watched Sariah this past weekend, and I know she was loved and treated like a princess.
Add my mom—500 miles away in Cleveland—who outfits Sariah and takes care of her financially, and you will see why my cup stays full even when my energy is empty.
3. What a True Village Feels Like
Safety — I leave Sariah for four hours and never once worry if she’s loved.
Permission — “Go nap,” they say. “Go create.” They remind me that rest and ambition can coexist.
Accountability — When I hide in my car binge‑watching Grey’s Anatomy, they knock on the window—literally and figuratively.
Generosity — They give without keeping score, from free babysitting to surprise Pampers deliveries.
Faith — Each woman believes in something bigger than herself; their faith steadies mine when I’m shaky.
4. Why I’m Sharing This
I used to think that writing about my feelings of being overwhelmed sounded like a pity party. But bottling it up only left me gasping for air. Sharing my truth here is my way of exhaling—and maybe permitting you to do the same.
If you’re drowning in diapers, deadlines, or debt, I hope you’ll:
Name your village. Write their names down, even if it’s just one friend or a kind daycare teacher.
Ask clearly: “Can you watch the baby on Saturday from 9 to 1 so I can rest?” People can’t help if they don’t know how.
Receive without apology. Say thank you, not I’m sorry. Accept the help, refill your cup, and then pass that kindness forward.
5. A Note to Sariah (and Every Child Watching)
One day, you’ll read this, baby girl, and see that Mommy didn’t do it all alone—that’s the point. I want you to know it’s strong to ask for help, brave to admit you’re tired and beautiful to lean on community. I hope you’ll build your village and never feel ashamed to rest in its arms.
Let’s Talk
Who’s in your village? How did they save your sanity this week?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s celebrate the people who keep us afloat when motherhood (and life) feel like open water.
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Because it really does take a village—and mine is pure gold