Navigating New Beginnings: Building a Life for Two
Hey Bleu Bells,
I'm on the cusp of a profound transformation—transitioning into motherhood. It's an exhilarating and terrifying journey all rolled into one. As I jot down numbers, plan savings, and look at daycare options, a daunting question looms: How do I ensure stability and peace of mind, financially and holistically?
Now it’s time to face the finances…
Preparing for a baby goes beyond just setting up an Amazon account for baby essentials; it's about ensuring the money keeps flowing, responsibly managing savings, and planning meticulously. It's about creating a safety net that allows me to breathe easier.
But then, there’s more to life than just financial readiness. It's about setting up a platform—a legacy—for my soon-to-arrive daughter. That's where Shaybleu comes in. This platform isn't just a blog; it's a living diary, a testament to persistence, passion, and authenticity.
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Is it truly money I seek for me and my daughter? or consistency in creating a life full of passion where the money becomes unlimited?
I want my daughter to see her mom as someone who, despite fears and insecurities, stayed true to her passions. I want to be her Beyoncé, her Rihanna—someone who shows resilience and love for what you do and can shape your world and the world of those you love.
Using role models like Beyoncé and Rihanna is cliché, but I respect what they do and what they have done, not as women but as humans who are passionate about something and keep striving for what they love. I don’t know all the shit in the background they had to endure. We see the fairytale, but life isn’t a fairytale. Life is what you truly make it. Something will happen that you have no control over, but if you want something bad enough, you will keep striving until you get it. It will only fuel the fire for something greater when you get it. I want my daughter to feel that burn in her stomach for something she feels passionate about. I want her to continue to chase that fire forever. It will never get old, only better.
I’ve always wanted that feeling. The feeling of wanting something so bad you become an expert at it. I’ve always admired that gift in people. It makes me look at them differently and want to adopt that same trait. It’s addicting. Can you imagine the fire of Micheal Phelps’s desire to swim and win a gold medal? The grit of Sha’Carri in becoming one of the best track runners of our time? To rebrand yourself like Mel Robbins and become a millionaire at age 45 and the number one educational podcaster in the world? These are humans who never quit despite all the challenges they endured. They kept fucking going.
Why do you think women admire successful men in Sports, Business, Finance, or YouTube? It’s not just the money; it’s the consistency and power. We value and admire those traits and want to be associated and procreate with those men. Why not? It gives you and your family something to inspire to.
Slowly transitioning into this new lifestyle, I must expose her to everything I can to help feed the fire of something she is passionate about. Honestly, I never had that. I never had my fire fueled as a child. I always had support in my adult life but was not given the formula or guidance as a child in finding that fire. I learned they go hand in hand. I am still searching for my fire. That is why we become lost in limbo in adulthood due to searching for purpose and passion.
I don’t want her to believe mediocracy is enough. Life is precious, and you only have one. I don’t want her to settle. I settled for years. But I knew deep down inside I wanted more and still want more. I feel like I am settling now by not doing more. I don’t push myself enough for the things I truly want. I don’t want her to battle the same challenges I endure consistently every day. I want her to overcome them with intrinsic motivation. The desire within. I am not saying she should become Beyonce or Rihanna. I want her to have that same grit they have. We all need someone or something to bring that out of us, tap into it, expose it, endure it, embrace it, fund it, and watch it blossom. I am that person for her, but it starts with being that person for myself first.
As children, we crave guidance, discipline, and exposure. As adults, we become so in tune with our lives that we tend to forget that when we have children, they are watching and soaking everything up like sponges. I believe if you are lazy, your child will think it's okay to be lazy. If you eat unhealthy, your child will think it's okay to eat unhealthy. If you move at a pace that is considered mediocre, then they will move at that same pace. They are a true reflection of YOU.
I want my daughter to watch and take in all my failures and successes. I want her to know I’m honest. I cry and don’t have all the answers; I get an attitude, can be selfish sometimes, and am not perfect overall. I want her to know and accept the real me. But I also secretly want her to think I am someone she can look up to, talk to, respect, and want to become, but first, I need to become something she wants to adopt. The pressure is on, but it’s a good pressure to ensure I stay on my toes!
Imagine your child looking at you with eyes full of wonder, seeing you as their role model—not because you're perfect, but because you're real. You falter, you succeed, and you don't give up. That’s the vision I have for myself and her. This journey isn't just about teaching; it's about learning from the new life I will bring into this world. I want to inspire her, but I'm also open to the lessons she'll teach me by being her unfiltered, pure self.
To all my Bleu Bells, whether you’re parents, soon-to-be, or simply navigating your transformative paths, remember: It’s not about the speed of the journey but the depth and richness of the experiences we gather along the way.
“Don’t put your dreams onto your kids, live your dreams for yourself where your kids will want to do the same”
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